Friday, July 29, 2011

hair.


No, no... not the musical.

(Although, sidenote: Sporty Sister and I saw it at the beginning of the summer.  Amazing!!!  A little raunchy, but it's ike, really really really good.  Even if the girl sitting next to me was higher than a kite.  They let you come on stage at the end.  Hello, my dream!!!)

But seriously, I'm talking about MY hair.  It's driving me nuts and I feel like I'm totally in a pickle.

Here's the deal:  I have really curly hair naturally.  I was born with, um, no hair... but when it finally grew in, I was stuck with crazy curls.


Sorry Soccer Mom, but what were you thinking letting me get bangs!!!  And can we just take a minute to discuss how unfair it is that Sporty Sister has stick straight hair???

Moving on.

Thankfully, I was given a Chi straightening iron for Hanukah in eighth grade.  It took me a few years and more than a few bad hair days to figure the thing out, but eventually I did.

My hair has been long, straight, short, curly.. you name it.




It could be the heat (and frankly I really believe it is) but I need to overhaul my hair.  My internal dilemma, is that I don't want to do something damaging to my hair or alter it in a way that isn't "natural." I have justified the Chi because when I wash my hair it's curly again... but I'm interested (ahh) in chemically straightening my hair.

BUT I'M SO FREAKED OUT TO LOSE MY CURLS.

What is my problem???

That's really only dilemma number 1.  Dilemma number 2 is that I want bangs, even though I don't want bangs.  So feel free to talk me out of that ASAP.

Okay... so I need hair straightening horror stories, successes, opinions, and persuasions against bangs.

Ready?

Set.

GO!

45 comments :

  1. My hair is my worst enemy sometimes, but I highly highly recommend the Brazilian blowout/Keratin treatment. You can get an express treatment that lasts 30 days and is generally about $80 (from my experience) or one that lasts 4 months and costs $200+. If you're interested, I know Ulta salons are having a special until July 30th for the 4 month treatment for $159. I've gotten three so far and love them!

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  2. Well I can't speak for straightening, because my hair is quite straight. But I've always wanted to have full bangs but have held back because I think they look much better on girls with very dark hair - and that's YOU so you should go for it!

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  3. Your story just about parallels mine (right down to the 8th grade hannukah chi...) I've really been considering a Japanese blowout. But the chemicals scare me. I've heard keratin is way way more natural and better for you, although it more gets ride of frizz than actually straightens. I'm thinking about trying it after sorority recruitment because I just don't want to take that risk beforehand.

    I'm going to try to talk you out of bangs right this second. Because it's a bad idea. No matter what you do to your hair and how often you try to straighten it, those small pieces that touch your forehead are always going to curl back up into little nubs. Let's not talk about how I know. Bad memories. When you run, work out, spend time in the humidity, your forehead always gets a little shiny, and those pieces get curly and stick to it. Not. Cute.

    I really wanted side bangs at one point but my hair stylist who has known me since I was 12 told me no. Instead I got my hair sort of tapered around my face, kind of Jennifer Aniston ish. Basically I was told if you have curly hair you should never cut it above your ear lobe unless you're going for the "Orphan Annie" look. Which is totally cute, if that's what you want, but I doubt it is.

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  4. I wouldn't recommend getting the keratin treatment for your hair type. My hair stylist told me that it really only works for people that have "mixed" hair types, like hispanic or african american hair types. For you, it could weigh down the curls and not really do all that much. Having curly hair myself, it's nice because we have the best of both worlds. You can straighten it and have it curly. Some people with straight can't hold a curl at all. As far as bangs go, I would do the long side swept bangs if you're looking for a change.

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  5. I have really really straight hair... Curl it, hair spray, etc it usually straightens out. In eighth grade my mom let me get a perm (she's always had one for a number of years now.) I don't know if it was because my hair is so thin, or because I went to a bad salon, but my hair was damaged and fried so bad that I could only let it grow out. After that, I am not a fan or any chemical treatment on my hair.

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  6. I have some of the worst hair ever created. It's frizzy and messy and I didn't know what to do with it. I wanted in on the bang craze, and it was one of the biggest mistakes of my (hair) life. I had to dry and flat iron my hair every time i washed it to not look like a poodle. It took me 45-60 minutes every time I did it. I was so thankful once my bangs grew out enough so I didn't have to deal with them.

    Last year I got a Brazilian Blowout on a whim and I love it. My former tight, frizzy curls have become much looser and less frizzy, so now I can rock the beach-y wave look and all I need to do is let it air dry. If I want straight hair I just use a round brush and it takes about 20 minutes to get straight hair without even using a flat iron. I would say to check out salons in your area to find the best price because they are expensive. This is what I have in my hair. http://www.brazilianblowout.com/home

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  7. You and I need to talk! I have the same deal as you, and I haven't really tried anything but good old blowouts and flatironing, but I'm really interested in Keratin and the Brazilian Blowout, so if anyone has information on it, that would be fantastic!! XO
    http://northshoreprep.blogspot.com

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  8. Since I have kind of wavy hair, its much easier to straighten AND curl my hair, but sometimes after straightening my hair, even with heat protectant, it felt "fried". it even started smelling like that burnt hair smell. A friend of mine got a brazilian blowout, and she loved it. it doesn't really straighten it, but relaxes the hair and makes it so much easier to blow it out or style it...

    every time i go to the salon to get a cut, i always seem to want bangs. my dresser always talks me out of it though, except for the last time i went. if you want bangs, get them kind of long, so that you can tuck your bangs behind your ears. if they aretoo short, they're always in your eyes or irritating you.. I think the perfect length for bangs is where it hits at the bottom of your nose or top of the mouth. and getting angles or layers are also something else to think about!
    hope this helped!

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  9. I got my hair chemically straightened. IT DESTROYED MY HAIR! I don't know the texture of your hair, but mine is fine--I just have a lot of it. It broke off so many pieces. I was like you, and I straightened my hair everyday.

    I would go to a GOOD hairdresser and ask them what they thought first. I swear by Aveda. I don't know if they straighten hair or not, but if you can find a hairdresser trained by them, then I would ask their opinion. Basically, it all depends on if your hair can handle it. If it's fine, DON'T GET IT. If your, hair is thick, then you should be okay.

    I have learned to work with the hair that the good Lord gave me, and I believe that it is my best look. Your hair is already very beautiful, but I understand being a girl and always wanting the hair you can't have.

    I hope this helps and good luck!

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  10. I know a TON of people with the same problem as you. Honestly, I'd recommend chemically straightening your hair. I've heard all these horror stories about peoples hair falling out and breaking off but I have NO CLUE where that is coming from.

    I've gotten my hair chemically straightened multiple times and my hair is healthy as a horse! But the thing is you need to go and get it done at an korean salon place. Okay now you're probably thinking im crazy but I promise you I'm like not kidding. I'm korean and me and all my friends go and get it done. And honestly, I feel like it makes my hair look healthier! You know when you straighten your hair and its all soft and shiny? Its like that 24/7 when you get it chemically straightened. I actually call it a "straight perm". Everyone is korea does it so its really not a big deal. Anyways, I love having mine so straight and soft. The only downside is that a lot of people like touching it. Its really strange but other than that I LOVE IT.

    Oh yeah and it never like fades or anything. It just grows out and I go and get it done again!

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  11. I sincerely recommend getting a Brazilian Blowout treatment. I have extremely thick, curly, and unruly hair. What the treatment does is it keeps your curl, but completely knocks out your frizz. You will be able to dry your hair completely natural WITHOUT THE USE OF ANY PRODUCT!!!! I swear. It is a godsend. Using product in your hair actually causes your hair to be heavy and shaggy similar to a dog. The treatment even lasts in high humidity weather. This summer I went to Myrtle Beach and there was close to 100% humidity and I still dried my hair naturally without it frizzing. The treatment will last you about 3 months and will set you back anywhere between $100 - $300, but seriously it is worth it. What the salon will do is, after washing your hair with just shampoo they will blow dry into an obnoxious fro. Then they will coat your hair with keratin from the root to the end all over. Finally they will blow dry / flat iron your hair to secure the keratin. Then about a day later you may wash it all out. I will say it takes about a week or two to get used to it but again...it. is. completely. worth. it.


    ......please, join the Brazilian Blowout club.

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  12. Maybe blow your hair straight with a round brush and blow dryer instead of flat ironing it. I think that looks better.

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  13. I'll ditto the korean hair salon comment. One of my best friends has super curly, frizzy, red, fine hair and she lived abroad in Hong Kong where she started getting it chemically straightened. When she moved back to the US she always would go to Korean salons to get it straightened. If it doesn't ruin her fine hair that I think anyone is safe!

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  14. I like the photo of "grown-up" Carly with natural, wavy hair! It looks very summery and casual!

    I have extremely curly hair as well. I long ago adopted the "don't fight it" routine, as even the Chi damaged mine...

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  15. I get the Chi chemically straightening process done to my hair every year. I started it in high school because I have crazy curly hair and it was so hard to manage since I was on the swim team and had practice before and after school. So I got it done and it was amazing it looks completely healthy and it stays straight for around 9 months and then the curls start to come back.

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  16. I've had the Keratin Hair Treatment before. It really works. About the bang thing... you can always buy the clip in bang extensions from the Jessica Simpson extensions line. I tried them out around Christmas of last year.

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  17. In terms of bangs, I think it really depends on how much time you want to spend on your hair every day. Bangs definitely add a layer of complication to styling your hair...they need attention to look good. I'm very wash-and-wear so that would drive me nuts, but some people are more willing to spend time doing their bangs...so that should be a consideration.

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  18. I feel your pain with the hair -- my curls never look just right so I always end up just straightening it! And I loved my (side) bangs while I had them, but I wanted a change so I grew them out, and I can't say that I miss having to spend the extra time in the morning making sure they were falling the right way!

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  19. You could try clip in bangs if you want to see how they'd look or don't want to be stuck with bangs all the time.

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  20. I think our hair texture is probably really similar…it looks that way at least! I always toy with the idea of getting a straight perm/keratin treatment, before eventually chickening out. Eventually though, I always become relieved that I didn't do it. My curls are something that set me apart. When I straighten my hair, it looks good,but it looks like everybody else too. People can't replicate our naturally curly hair and the way that we can sometimes rock a messy do. Also, I had a friend with very curly hair who got a keratin treatment…it was easier for her to straighten but it basically looked liked she smashed the top of her curls and brushed out the rest all the time. Not cute. Her hair has yet to go back (almost two years after the treatment) to its voluminous springy curls! I would keep the curls & rock them! The days when you look so hot because of your curls that no one else has, make all the frizz worth it.

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  21. I wish I could help you but unfortunately I've got the opposite problem-- super duper fine straight hair that won't hold a curl for more than twenty minutes!

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  22. Ah I feel your pain! I have very, very thick hair, like pageant thick hahaha. It's also semi-curly. It takes me over half an hour just to blowdry it, and an hour to straighten it. A few years back I did the Rusk Thermal Straightening treatment, and it was AMAZING. I would definitely do it again. It did not get rid of my curl all together, it basically worked to just tame my hair down. If I wanted to wear my hair curly, I just had to scrunch it. It was drastically smoother and so so soft! It cut my blowdry time in half. Talking about it, I am definitely going to get a similar treatment again!

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  23. Read the book Curly Girl. It will totally make you never want to straighten your hair again. I think we have a similar hair type, and I went through the same thing last year. Recently, I've started using lots of deep conditioner and sleeping with my hair in a french braid to sort of 'style' my curls. And I've also been there with the bangs. I can provide humiliating pictures of my home-styled bangs to try to convince you not to do that! r

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  24. I would say skip out on the bangs because honestly everytime i go to the hairdresser after my hair has grown out i want change so i ask for med-longish length bangs...and they absolutely make my forrhead break out more often afterwards. My hair comes into more contact with my forehead so the oils irritate it more and i tend to breakou...i always swear not to cut them again but its like a cycle and i make the mistake again and again. Dont start the cycle!

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  25. DO NOT GET BANGS! I highly recommend against it. I had bangs and all they are are high maintenance. Also - they kind of make your forehead break out, if you are prone to acne.
    ESPECIALLY if your hair is naturally wavy - it is way too much of a pain to straighten your bangs.
    Also -- once you cut them it takes FOREVER to let them grow out.

    DON'T DO IT CARLY!!!

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  26. My hair is insane. It's super thick, wavy/curly on the bottom and straight on the top. At the end of April I had a Keratin treatment done thinking it would save me from my hair misery this summer. While it worked great and cut down on drying/straightening time (it takes me about a half hour to do my hair in the morning) I don't think it's worth the money. It lasted for about a month-two months and now my hair is back to the way it used to be. Not worth the $350.

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  27. Not to not talk you out of it, but I love bangs! My hair is also naturally really straight so they're not too much of a pain to deal with.

    And as for horror stories, my best friend had wavy hair and decided to get it chemically straightened (after doing chi for quite some time). I'm not sure if she just got it done at the wrong place, as I've heard many great stories, but she lost about half of the thickness of her hair and it took over a year or so to grow back.

    My mom, on the other hand, does keratin treatments... a little bit more natural, lasts a while, and she loves it! She still obviously has to blowdry her hair after washing, but it is much more manageable.

    Hope this helps, and good luck!

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  28. I have crazy curly hair that I used to have chemically straightened. Whatever chemicals they used made my hair so weak and it would fall out with a simple stroke of a brush! I wouldn't recommend it. Stick to the straightener because you can go back and forth between curly and straight!

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  29. I have really curly hair as well! I wouldn't recommend getting any kind of chemical process done to your hair. A lot of people assume curly hair is a great candidate for chemical process but in reality it's the WORST. Our hair is very porous and gets damaged easily. My stylist recommended for me to just straighten my crazy intense curly with a T3 ManeTamer Flat Iron {one of the best} it is pretty costly runs around $200 at Sephora but well worth the price and you can use it on wet hair which I happen to find easier to manage because it's not as thick as it is when dried.
    Don't damage your hair if you don't have to. I've dyed and bleached my hair many times and all those chemicals don't even compare to having your hair chemically straightened. For some of the treatments salon owners and their customer have to wear surgical face masks/gas masks because the chemicals are so strong. Hope this helps :)

    http://www.felipavillegas.com

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  30. As a girl with stick straight hair, I've had my own internal dilemma with my hair..long, shoulder length or bob, bangs or no? Every other year I decide to grow my hair out nice and long; then in the off years, I think cutting it short is what I need. When cutting my hair, I always say yes to bangs and then regret my decision 2 months later.
    My opinion: no bangs, but if you are getting your hair chemically straightened, some angling around the face can give the feel of bangs, without all those annoying pieces directly around your eyes :)

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  31. I would suggest a keratin treatment/Brazilian tretment as opposed to getting your hair "Japanese straightened." Relaxed hair is so convenient! The curls are not as difficult to manage, and you can still wear your hair straight or wavy. Trust me, keratin treatments make straightening one's hair SUCH a breeze!

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  32. Hi - your story is very similar to mine. I have super curly/frizzy hair. I tried doing the relaxers and the chemicals are really harsh. I have done Japanese straightening the past few years and love it. It lasts for a full year and looks amazing. I've had no damage to my hair or thinning or anything. It's the least harsh of all the straightening methods (all of them contain chemicals, so none are natural). Please seriously think twice before doing the Brazilian. It contains formaldehyde which is what morticians use on dead bodies. Every hair stylist I have asked has warned me against it. Allure wrote a huge article a year or two again warning about the dangers of it. And my co-worker who used to get it done actually lost some of her hair. Just make sure you do your research.

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  33. Don't cave in and get your hair chemically straightened. It's simply not healthy, regardless of what treatment you choose. My mother's a hairdresser, and I too have the curse of curly hair. I used to keep it extremely long, however, last summer with an internship at a courthouse, I decided I needed something a bit more professional. I keep it at shoulder length or just above, and I personally think bangs are a wonderful way to add something to the mess of curls I am forced to tame. I keep them side-swept now, however, in the past, I've done the straight bang look, and I'm contemplating returning to that style. Point is, when you want straight hair, if you retain your curls, you can put your Chi to use. Getting bangs must satisfy your craving to switch up your style, and worse comes to worse, they grow back!

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  34. I have super curly blonde hair (hello taylor swift comments)and I straighten it all the time! I would totally not recomend getting your hair chemically straightened though it can REALLY damage your hair!
    I would and have side-swept bangs and LOVE them, I always straighten them or pull them off to the side! I would recomend getting side swept bangs, becuase you can get them a little longer then straight blunt bangs and if you don't like them they are super easy to put in a pony tail or pull them back in bobby pins! They also look cute with curly hair!

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  35. You've basically just described my life. Born with a full head of bouncy, beautiful curls. Then middle school hit and I wanted to look like everybody else and took the straighter to it daily. After high school, I said screw it, and fell back in love with my curls, until I studied abroad in Italy and the weather affected my hair in weird ways, so I would straighten it every day again.

    I don't know if it was the water, straightening, gelato, whatever, but my curls have vanished. Completely. Let me tell you, it's the most depressing thing in the world.

    I have what my friends have dubbed "curl envy" I literally stare at every person I pass with hair like I once had. It's an addiction, and I can't seem to stop it.

    Moral of the story: get some bangs, highlights, but no chemical straightening. I promise you'll regret it.

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  36. I have been having the same debate for awhile now! I JUST got a keratin treatment done on Monday!!! And ironically, I just blogged about it...

    http://www.annasfavs.blogspot.com

    Feel free to read about my experience, ha! But yeah, if you're going to get it done, I'd definitely go with the Keratin treatment, hands down.

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  37. Chemically Straightening is amazing when you first get it done, I got it done to my hair in 9th grade it started growing out and getting really curly at the top so I had it re-done at the same place, well they used a new chemical and didn't wash it out all the way, therefore the chemicals they use ate through my hair and I was left with four completely bald spots all over my head. For a 9th grader I was devastated and have vowed to NEVER EVER do anything to do with chemicals to my hair ever again! I suggest not doing chemical straightening, I have heard wonderful things about the keratin treatment I would try that! Hope this helps!

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  38. Don't get bangs! It is just a hassle and trying to grow them back out just isn't worth it. Also, I wouldn't go for any treatments if I were you. I think it's all about finding that miracle product. Don't fight your hair! It really is beautiful!

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  39. Stop right there Carly! First of all, stick with the Chi, the damage that chemical straightening could do to your hair could be absolutely detrimental. Is it worth ruining your hair, possibly permanently, only to save a little time and effort? Imagine all the time and effort that will go into making your damaged hair look good again in the future. And it's CHEMICAL straightening-- the word "chemical" is a red flag screaming "toxic and harmful to your hair." Secondly, don't get bangs. I had bangs for about a year and they were so difficult to manage. There were days when they looked horrible and there was nothing I could do to help them, thus, they made my entire head of hair look like a mess. Also, I ended up with a TON of acne on my forehead. I had never been prone to acne before the bangs, but within weeks pimples started to appear and shortly after, my forehead erupted in a massive gross breakout which lasted for months. I tried every acne cream and facial scrub I could find in the Target pharmacy, but nothing helped-- in fact it got worse. I began seeing a dermatologist who prescribed several medications which I have been on for over a year now. It's a pain to have to remember to take them twice a day every day, and I'm soon to start a painful laser treatment in order to erase the scarring that resulted from the countless pimples I had. And all of this because of a stupid want for bangs. Totally not worth it. Besides, you have very beautiful hair as is. I love curly hair and I have envied some of my friends who are fortunate enough to have it.

    So don't stick with the Chi and don't get bangs. You are a naturally pretty person, so don't use anything unnatural to change that.

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  40. I have gotten my hair chemically straightened 2-3 times a year for almost 12years. My hair is super thick and wavy. This is partially genetic, but the biggest problem is that I was really sick when I was born and when the nurses shaved my head for tubes and wires they shaved what is pretty much a zig zag near my crown on the back of my head and my hair grows in extremely curly and wavy and coarse in that spot. I have tried several chemical straighteners but the best one and actually the cheapest is when they use the stuff for perms and comb it straight. They also put deep conditioning stuff in it to keep it from drying out your hair. Using shampoos for colored or treated hair will also help it last longer and be healthier.

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  41. Ah, not to put salt in the wound, but I actually have Sporty Sister hair, naturally straight that is. As for bangs, I don't have much experience with anything but side swept bangs because of an unfortunate cowlick. I don't think chemically straightening it would be a good idea, but perhaps a Keratin treatment?

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  42. One word for you... Keratin! Speaking from experience it is the way to go. I get what is called a blowout, I keep my curls but lose the frizz and puffyness. I live in DC but go to school in Mississippi so trust me when I say it is the only way to beat the humidity. When I want my playful curls I got them but flat ironing them straight is no problem at all.

    The key to it is finding the right place. Certain treatments have different chemicals (my sister gets a keratin treatment in her hair that leaves it permanently straight and I just can't force myself to do that.) Back to the chemicals, Keratin is something already found in your hair so its not as damaging, it leaves the hair looking shiny and very healthy. But do your research and ask question when you find a salon that does it. Beware it can get costly!

    Best of luck!

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  43. Everyone is saying Keratin -- and I agree! I would suggest checking out Organix 30-day at home Keratin treatment. It works pretty well and $15 will get you at least two applications. It should be pretty easy to find in a drug store... its' the same brand as that new shampoo that's been popping up with the funny roundish bottles.) it's a nice test run before plunking down the serious cash on a salon Keratin treatment (which will last 3-4m).

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  44. One of my college roommates had super duper curly hair when I met her...like curlier than yours by far, the kind of curly hair that only requires an elastic looped around once, triangular shaped if left alone, etc. She got a Keratin treatment and it's perfectly straight now, something which would have taken at least an hour straightening before. Something to keep in mind: with Keratin she tries not to wash it as often, which is something I personally would be annoyed by. Disregard what other people are saying about needing non-Caucasian hair for it to work -- my friend is Italian and Irish and it was perfectly fine.

    As far as bangs, expect to spend at least 5-10 minutes doing them even on days you don't do your hair, otherwise you need to pin them back. They are awesome when they're cut perfectly and are styles nicely, but if you don't want to dedicate the time to making them look good each day, you'll end up regretting them! I had bangs two years ago and loved them, but only because I made them part of my "getting ready" routine.

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  45. Hair treatment is now available in maybe in all salons, but we must be choosy of salon we will go in. We should seek referral from some who got service from one of them. Because our hair is one of our assets that should make or brake our day.

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